The baby is finally asleep. You are not. You are sitting on the edge of the bed, trying to remember if the two-month visit is this Thursday or next, whether you logged the last pumping session, and who told the visitors they could come at 2.

This is not a medical guide. This is about the household work that shows up after a baby, and how fast it can concentrate on one person.

The mental load after a baby is not being on top of things. It is being the only place the week exists.

Make the invisible list visible

Write the recurring pieces: clinic visits, pumping, visitors, the older sibling, forms. Ugly and shared beats polished and private. Then attach names.

Share without dumping

Just tell me what to do still leaves the first parent as the manager. A better ask is smaller. One of you takes clinic comms. One owns visitor texts. Pick one cluster. Run it for a week.

If you want a place to keep that list, Zazu lives in WhatsApp. You talk. It keeps track. You stay in charge.